Frequently Asked Questions

  • Our time together will begin with a conversation about our impending time together—power neutral—unless previously negotiated. I will immediately be assessing your state of mind and ensuring your comfort while building a rapport.

    After we review what our session will entail, considerations, limits, and rules, we will enter into our contained power exchange. You will present yourself to me as my subject. I will take our previous conversations and your interests into account as I guide you through our play. My full attention will be on you, evaluating your responses to each of my actions by reading your body language, listening to what you say, and encouraging your fantasies.

    My goal is to bring you into a headspace where you can completely let go. The better I can do this, the deeper your submission and feelings of devotion can grow.

    I welcome people of different backgrounds and experience levels. Come with an open mind, ready to immerse yourself in a power exchange with me.

    I encourage all—whether it's your first time seeing a Dominatrix or me in particular—to schedule a phone consult. Email me or fill out my booking form and I’ll take it from there!

  • The best place to start is by filling out my session request form. Doing so will provide me with information I need to assess our compatability.

    If you have specific questions or a scenario you’d like to discuss, I offer phone consults with a $75 tribute.

  • You can get in touch via scheduled, tributed phone calls or via NiteFlirt. I have an active online presence on X (formerly Twitter). I’m less active on BlueSky, Instagram, and TikTok.

    I don't have a fan site and do not create custom videos. I won't get on a video call with you unless you are a trusted submissive.

    As a New York City Mistress, my focus is around creating immersive in-person experiences. I'm kept quite busy with Femdom sessions in New York, travel, and a busy personal life.

  • There are two reasons I recommend a two hour visit with your Dominatrix, at a minimum:

    1. Most requests involve guiding my submissive through a transformative experience. To enter and exit an altered state of mind takes delicate care and often some experimentation—both of which should not be rushed.

      Some people have specific fetishes or interests that are purely aesthetic or sensation-based. In these instances, I may consider a shorter session.

    2. I prioritize my schedule for multi-hour BDSM experiences. I put a similar amount of mental energy into our playtime, regardless of length. With a shorter session, the outcome—both in how deep we can go and the total tribute—will be less satisfactory. Therefore, I schedule shorter sessions when it suits me. If you are dead set on seeing me, but carving out time is your limiting factor, offer an additional tribute to be prioritized.

  • Yes! Most people are drawn to me because I take a softer, subtler approach to Femdom. Seduction and inspiring devotion are two of my favorite and most powerful methods of contol.

    There are myriad sensations, emotions, and outcomes in BDSM play. Pain is just one. I will respect your boundaries and limits.

  • If it's on this list, then yes. If it's on my hard limits list (below), then no. If you can't find it listed in either place, you may ask via email or in the session request form.

  • Hard limits are things I will not engage in at all, and include: medical roleplay, diaper play, FTT/scat play, Roman showers, wrestling. I will not be exposed to your blood in a session. I do not switch.

  • Roleplay is a fun and exciting avenue to sink into a power exchange, and I enjoy playing in these niche spaces. If you have an involved roleplay in mind that you’d like me to review before we book a session, book a consult call or tribute for me to review it in writing.

    Some roles that I enjoy playing: Mommy, step-mom, MILF, corrupting older woman, seductress, boss, therapist, black widow, and femme fatale. I will not be your doctor or nurse.

  • I work with a variety of other providers. I can pair us up based on what I know about you, or you can suggest another provider. I love when my submissives put another provider on my radar.

    I have lovers and friends who I work with for cuckolding and forced-bi scenes. These are two favorites of mine!

  • First, check your spam! Unfortunately, my messages often end up in spam. I try to respond in 72 hours, but sometimes I’m busy and it takes a bit longer.

  • My New York City dungeon incall space is in Chinatown (bordering Soho). I have access to others studios and dungeons in NYC, as long as you cover the fee.

  • If I don't have it listed in my touring details, you are welcome to email me and ask. I travel frequently to Stamford, Boston, Burlington, Albany, Rochester, Long Island, Philadelphia, Washington, D.C., and Pittsburgh.

    If you want me to visit your city, inquire as to how you can sponsor a visit or fly me to you.

  • It's possible but unlikely. Expect the tribute to increase in order for it to be worthwhile for me to reorganize my day.

  • I say “no” to others when I say “yes” to you. Deposits are required for in-person meetings and scheduled phone calls. The deposit is non-refundable and covers a number of things: the time spent scheduling and coordinating our session, the cost of the space, and my time that I will reserve for you.

    Deposits can be paid via Cashapp, Venmo, various cryptocurrencies, or via throne.com/thenylonicon. For those who wish to leave no digital trail, I will accept gift cards that you can purchase with cash.

  • Deposits can be applied to a future session if you cancel with at least 72 hours notice.

    72-36 hours: forfeiture of deposit

    36-24 hours: 50% of total session tribute

    24 hours or less: full tribute

    In the rare event I must cancel our session, I will make every attempt to move it to a date that accommodates your schedule. If we are unable to find a date that works, I will offer a refund.

  • Screening is a way for me to make my job safer by verifying you. Having your verified legal name allows me to ensure you are safe for me to see. Collecting this information deters bad actors from seeing me. I value your privacy and will guard it with the same intent as I protect my own.

  • You may, but expect to tribute in order to show me that you are serious. You can wait for me to give you an amount, but it’s best to preemptively send before reaching out.

  • I understand that this is the mindset you want to have for your Mistress. Knowing this is a goal means that I will purposely push you to demonstrate your commitment to my happiness and satisfaction. Anyone petitioning to show devotion must take a long view. Your true intentions will be shown through consistency over time.

  • No. I fiercely guard my energy and am selective about the people I share space with. Any submissive who serves me in a personal capacity has gotten to know me over time and tributes with money and/or equivalent services.

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